Parents know

I remember how parents always said to all their children that the first impression is good and that may describe you but you don’t judge a book for its front page. How can parents say that they are contradicting themselves and that only confuse us. Well after some time you realize that parents know what they say.

I know a story of a girl her name is Ana she used to have just one friend in elementary school but at her last year her teachers decided to separate them so both would know new people. Ana was scared to know new people but she made new friends, it was easier for her to get along with some of them so she started to separate of her old best friend and she didn’t spend that many time with the friends with whom was a little bit more difficult to get along with. What Ana didn’t know is that she wasn’t choosing her friends by how they treated her, or how they heard her, neither for being good friends for her.

A couple of years latter she was friends with the same people but she realized the truth. Her group was getting advantage of her. It was a small group just 4 people isn’t that much. But Ana still was fighting to getting in the group. She did everything thinking that they were made for being her friends. She took her “friends” homework and did it. At the time of the exams it was really easy for her because she had written the same thing 4 times. But for her friends were really hard because they didn’t put attention at class and didn’t did their homework so that made her get to the next level cheat. She was now forced to give them copy in the exams because they didn’t knew anything. After lots of nights without sleeping, doing a harder work than she should, studying not just for her grades she realized she wasn’t happy.

Ana started new relationships made new and better friends. Maybe that was just a lesson for Ana so she would realize who her real friends were. And she realized that the impression they gave her was confident, trust being part of something. But it was better to be part of other groups; those groups in witch it wasn’t easy to get in because they did were good friends.

Sometimes we just see the good things and we close our eyes to the reality and that was what happened to Ana. I know she is happy now. She has more and better friends; she learned how to be a good friend without doing all the hard work, she grew up as a person and if you see her you wouldn’t think of her as a girl that once didn’t knew were she was supposed to be.

Maybe in this case our parents were right yes there are first impression and sometimes we don’t see them as we should. Maybe the girl next to you with the worst dress is a better person than the girl at your other side with the most beautiful dress. That can only remind me of once that I went to my best friend birthday and now one appeared. It was just us we had the most amazing time but by the time I realized she was different at school. She was awesome I could share so many things with her but she wasn’t the same she used to say she had many things she didn’t. I didn’t wanted a friend that lied to get attention. Now I see her she has become mature, she is a better person, she has been to many things but sometimes I see her and remember the times when she said lies. Maybe she has more things and better things but I don’t see where having things can take her. As I can see it the only thing you can get by saying all you have is hypocrite people around you.

We should judge people Jesus told us once that God was the only one that could judge. What are we doing by criticizing people. What do we thing we are to judge people by what they wear, what they look like, what they have. First impression of people can make you think some things but know that a first impression can be good or bad and you don’t know how people really is until you get to know them.